The Man I Prayed For

I found this poem on one of my favorite blogs, Young Ladies Christian Fellowship. I often find myself going to this blog when I am looking for encouragement. I was moved to tears reading this poem that one of the bloggers decided to post for readers who are still waiting on their man. Thank you YLCF! I have a restored hope and a prayer that I can carry with me.

Dear God, I prayed, all unafraid,
(as we’re inclined to do)
I do not need a handsome man
But let him be like You;
I do not need one big and tall
Nor need he be some genius
Or wealthy, Lord, at all;
But let his head be high, dear God,
And let his eye be clear,
His shoulders straight,
Whate’er his state
Whate’er his earthly sphere;
And let his face have character,
A ruggedness of soul,
And let his whole life show,
Dear God,
A singleness of goal;
That when he comes
(as he will come)
With quiet eyes aglow
I’ll understand that he’s the man
I prayed for long ago.

Ruth Bell, 1939 Published in Never Let it End: Poems of a Lifelong Love

Jesus: The ultimate example of a husband

According to the Bible, what should we look for in a husband? For all of us who desire to find the man of our dreams and get married… what kinds of characteristics should our man have? As women of Christ, we want to marry a Godly man who will lead us in the faith.  Ephesians paints a beautiful picture of how husbands should treat their wives.

Ephesians 5:25-33

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

love: seeks welfare of another, wanting the best for another more than himself, the love God requires of a husband is self-sacrificing, to empty himself of his ego, his needs, to put the needs of his wife as priority, laying aside his privileges. This love is not based on feelings or the worthiness of his wife. It is a choice to put the wife above himself and love her like his own body. Love is known by the actions it prompts.

sanctify: set apart for sacred use, the husband protects her, separates her from evil. He takes the brunt of the responsibility and leadership for his family.

washing: symbolic spiritual cleansing using the Bible, purifies and teaches his wife to know the Word, to know Christ and follow Him.

nourishes: care for, contributes to her health and growth including her health emotionally and spiritually.

cherishes: to keep warm, to tenderly hold, soften with heat, safety.

hold fast or cleave: join fast together, glue, cement, solder metals together, unbreakable bond.

As Jesus treats his people is how a husband should treat his wife. He is the ultimate example of a husband.

Marriage Is Not My Highest Calling: Part Two

KimJoshFor those of you who read a blog post of mine from a couple of days ago, I put the link to a blog that I visit frequently- Young Ladies Christian Fellowship. One of the writers, Ashleigh, wrote a beautiful post on our calling as women of God. She wrote a second part that is just as lovely. Here is a little piece of Ashleigh’s post…

God’s ways are so much higher and more complete than ours–none of us knows what tomorrow holds. There are no guarantees–at all–outside of our unchanging Savior. Limiting a life to a man-made plan for the single years completely negates God Himself and His wisdom that reaches far above our own.

Never in the Bible do we read of women, single or married, spending idle days waiting for Prince Charming to arrive at their doorstep. Think of Rebekah, Ruth, Deborah, Esther, Anna, Lois, and so many others. Every woman mentioned, single or married, is found working, serving the Lord in industrious pursuits suitable to her season in life.

Check out the rest here: Marriage Is Not My Highest Calling Part Two.

And as Ashleigh says…

Go. Do. Follow Jesus. Be Busy. Embrace your true highest calling.

Marriage Is Not My Highest Calling: Part One

I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I hope.

                                                                           -Psalm 130:5

wedding_dress_bridal_wedding_gown_1Here is a great blog post from one of my favorite blogs, Young Ladies Christian Fellowship. This speaks so clearly to me, especially during this season of my life. However, God has been laying this on my heart for a while. It reminded me of a post I wrote back in April titled, When will my life start?! I wrote about how life can feel like you are waiting for the next big thing in life to happen- a career, college, graduate school, marriage, having a child, etc. Singleness, especially, doesn’t have to be a waiting period. For all the single ladies out there, here is a bit of encouragement and reminder of where we should be focused during this season of singleness.

I believe strongly and wholeheartedly in solid, godly marriages. Marriage is an awe-inspiring, truly blissful thing and something to be lauded and heralded as the God-ordained institution it is. We are people created for marriage and, once married, we should strive daily, at every possible opportunity to encourage each other toward even stronger, even holier marriages.

But marriage is not the end goal of life. Knowing personally and loving wholly the precious Savior IS the first and foremost goal of life. While such things as marriage and motherhood are, for many, the outworking of this goal, marriage in and of itself doesn’t make a life complete. It doesn’t signal the beginning of “real life.” It is simply a way God has ordained for some–I’d even venture to say most, but certainly not all–to better glorify Himself. Personal fulfillment, joy and happiness aren’t obtained solely through the finding of a life partner.

Read the rest of the post here: Marriage Is Not My Highest Calling.

Her Heart Cries Out

I found this poem on a blog that I view daily, Young Ladies Christian Fellowship. The women who write posts for the blog have inspired me greatly in the past year. Their writing is pure and from God.

I find this poem beautiful. It speaks so clearly to me. Although the poet seems desperate for her love as many women are, we have to remember that God is our first love and His love is enough!! His love is the biggest, the best, and the most faithful. I hope all of the single women who read my blog or YLCF find this post encouraging in that you will wait for the one God has for you. In the mean time AND when you do find THE one, remember God loved you first…

 

Her Heart Cries Out
By: Harmony Conjurske

I want one, she cried,
I need one today,
I can’t be denied,
Whatever you say.

These men that I see,
They cause so much pain.
There’s not one for me,
I’m almost insane.

They come in and out,
They go here and there
They wander about,
They’re just everywhere.

With sad weary eyes
I watch and I pine-
If one of these guys
Could only be mine.

They’re so big and strong,
They’re just what I need,
So come right along,
I sigh and I plead.

Sometimes for a while
They notice I’m there,
They’ll give me a smile,
Or just a deep stare.

But then all to fast
They move on their way.
These moments don’t last,
They didn’t come to stay.

They broke my poor heart-
These wonderful men-
They shot in their dart
And left me again.

Can they even see,
Do they not yet know,
The deep misery
They cause when they go?

I only want one
That’s all that I ask
Come give me some fun,
It’s not a hard task.

I’m pretty and sweet
I’ve kept myself pure.
I’d feel so complete,
So loved and secure.

They don’t seem to hear
My heart-breaking cry,
They drive in their spear,
And then go on by.

Perhaps it could be
He hasn’t come yet,
The one that’s for me
I might not have met.

I say as I weep,
He’s out there somewhere,
I pray, God, you’d keep
Him in your good care.

You must have a plan,
I will wait and see.
I know that you can
Bring one just for me!

The man that I need
Will find me some day
I cry, as I plead,
Come over my way.

I feel a great ache,
My life is so numb,
I fear it will break,
If you do not come.

Wherever you are,
Whatever you do,
I’ll be your bright star,
I’m waiting for you.

I AM waiting for you…

When will my life start?!

I feel like this is a question that a lot of young adults my age (I am almost 22) ask themselves all of the time. “When will my life finally start?” We sit around looking at our life, wanting so badly for the next phase to start so that we can be happy and experience REAL life. It looks different for everyone. For me, it is getting married and having a family with the man God has picked for me. It is easy for me to feel like I am not able to truly experience life without being a wife or a mother. I think to myself that if I was married, with a husband and child(ren) to care for I would truly experience life and the utmost joy.

Wow! God has really been working in me these past couple of weeks. God has been showing me that my thinking is false! I do not have to wait for my life to start while I am waiting for my husband to come sweep me off my feet. I can live TODAY! Glorifying God in all that I do, serving Him, experiencing life with Him and with people (believers and non-believers). Waiting for tomorrow is doing nothing for my soul. Experiencing God, serving God, and LIVING today is the ultimate sense of joy, granting me the ultimate tomorrow. Eternity in heaven with the Lord! The one I am becoming to know so well.