According to the Bible, what should we look for in a husband? For all of us who desire to find the man of our dreams and get married… what kinds of characteristics should our man have? As women of Christ, we want to marry a Godly man who will lead us in the faith. Ephesians paints a beautiful picture of how husbands should treat their wives.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
love: seeks welfare of another, wanting the best for another more than himself, the love God requires of a husband is self-sacrificing, to empty himself of his ego, his needs, to put the needs of his wife as priority, laying aside his privileges. This love is not based on feelings or the worthiness of his wife. It is a choice to put the wife above himself and love her like his own body. Love is known by the actions it prompts.
sanctify: set apart for sacred use, the husband protects her, separates her from evil. He takes the brunt of the responsibility and leadership for his family.
washing: symbolic spiritual cleansing using the Bible, purifies and teaches his wife to know the Word, to know Christ and follow Him.
nourishes: care for, contributes to her health and growth including her health emotionally and spiritually.
cherishes: to keep warm, to tenderly hold, soften with heat, safety.
hold fast or cleave: join fast together, glue, cement, solder metals together, unbreakable bond.
As Jesus treats his people is how a husband should treat his wife. He is the ultimate example of a husband.